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Survival vs Thriving
I’ve been in survival mode for two years. As exhausting and depleting as it’s been, one big frustration is the lack of personal growth during this time. The 5 years leading up to these past two were years of rapid growth, “deconstruction,” exploring new ideas, and expanding emotional and mental capacity. So I r...
Me on the Focus on Your Own Family Podcast
Hi! I was the guest on my friend Stephanie’s podcast, Focus on Your Own Family. We had a great conversation about growing up in fundamentalist Christianity as a homeschooled pastor’s kid and how Focus on the Family impacted my life. Check it out on Spotify or where you listen to podcasts.Also, if you’re not alrea...
Weird Ex-Evangelical Kid Memories
I’ve been digging through my garage looking for my boxes of random things I saved from childhood and ohhhh wow am I finding the weirdest stuff. 😂 I’ll be sharing more of these items on TikTok and Instagram soon, so that’s something to look forward to. Haha!I saved every Brio magazine, Christian band poster and...
It’s Christmas in July 😆😁
Wearing this just once a year would be such a waste 🤷🏼♀️
I Was in a Cult
I’ve decided to start talking about “the cult.” So many questions come in on my socials and in DMs asking about my cult experience that I vaguely elude to occasionally. It’s time I start telling the stories.It’s hard to know where to begin, but the short version is that when I was 18 I moved to Phoenix to be ...
What I’m Listening To: Focus on Your Own Family
My friend Stephanie has a new podcast! Please check it out and support her by listening, leaving a review, sharing, etc.Focus on Your Own Family, and Leave Ours Alone podcast
Camp and all the things missed
I dropped my kiddo off at camp yesterday and walking around checking the place out I felt so happy for her and also sad for me that I never got to experience a non church camp or really any similar activities outside of church as a kid (since I was homeschooled I didn’t have any school activities and wasn’t a part ...
Quieting the Noise
I tweeted recently that I have too much social media now. 😆 It’s just… very loud. I added three new social media channels in the last two weeks for various purposes and they’ve cumulatively grown by almost 4,000 followers. It’s a very good thing for me in many ways, and absolutely exhausting in others.I had ...
Tired
I saw a a post on social media recently (I can’t remember where I saw it 🙁) that explained that after a traumatic experience or a prolonged time of intense stress, grief, betrayal, etc. when coming back into a place of peace and safety it’s really common for the body to be very tired. I think that’s what I’m...
Grief
I took this picture right after I got my nose pierced on a whim. It was a couple of weeks after my dad died and I felt like doing something impulsive, so the nose piercing happened.Today would be my dad’s birthday. These days are hard to describe.Sending love to all who know this kind of loss and the strange mix of f...
Not Ashamed
Every day now I get comments (almost all from men) shaming me for my body. Every. Single. Day. It’s usually because they don’t like that most of my shirts are low-cut, but also sometimes it’s the size of my body (I wear a 16 right now, so I’m at the small end of “plus size”) or it’s my hair or that I’m ...
What I’m Listening to: Holy Smokes Podcast
Although I don’t attend church anymore, I really enjoy this podcast and their conversations around spirituality. Recent episodes:Christianity Has a Consent ProblemBlack Women and African Spirituality Deconstructing as a ParentCheck out the podcast and other info/resources by clicking here.
Healing
2021 and 2022 were terrible years for me. Many good moments and positive changes, but also some of the worst things I’ve ever had to face. All the times of intense pain and serious trauma wore me down in every way; my hair fell out, my weight yo-yo’d, either couldn’t sleep or couldn’t stay awake, I lashed out i...
Not the Doormat
When I was young I used to refer to myself as the “doormat.” It’s the thing that people walk right over without noticing, until it’s needed and not there.Beginning to assert myself, set boundaries, and not be afraid to gently but directly let someone know when they’ve crossed a line with me has been challengi...
My Kid Thinks I’m Cool 😎
My daughter and her friends think I’m cool and I wonder if that means I’m doing something wrong. 🤣 Last month I volunteered to help run a game at her school for the last day of 5th grade party and she was so excited that I would be there. Then she specifically requested that I wear this shirt and I was like “I...
Friday… Already
I have no idea how it’s Friday already! This week flew by for me and I am not ready for the weekend, but here we are. So, happy Friday, all!❤️❤️❤️
Viral
I’ve worked in influencer marketing and social media management in different capacities over the last 10 years and initially there was so much conversation about “going viral.” It felt like everyone was discussing what it meant to have viral content, how to get content to go viral, what to do with viral content i...
Don’t Tell Anyone
There’s this song by Semler called “Don’t Tell Anyone” and as soon as I heard it I felt so understood. Semler (Grace Baldridge) is also a pastor’s kid and the song reminds me so much of trying to live my life and have relationships while inside “the bubble.” Everyone had an opinion about me and I had to c...
Dreams
I don’t know how to dream yet.I’ve always had a big imagination and am forever the idea person. My number 1 strength, according to StrengthsFinder, is strategy and number 2 is ideation. I absolutely live in my head (hello there, enneagram 7) and it feels like I almost have the ability to see things before they happ...
Getting Started
For me, the most difficult part of accomplishing anything is just getting started. I usually know exactly what I need to do, but feel stuck. I think this is why Monday is so difficult; that first push off into a long list of tasks is overwhelming to me. But once I get moving it’s all much easier. So that’s where I ...
No Restrictions
Does this dress make my ass look big? Yes? Okay, good. 😆I stopped wearing regular bras almost completely a year ago and switched to clothes that have some sort of built in bra-ish kind of thing. I hate uncomfortable, restrictive bras and getting rid of them made it even easier to get ready in the morning because I j...
Pride!
I went to Columbus Pride yesterday for the first time ever and loved the whole experience! I mean, other than the lonnngggg walk back to the car when I ended up getting sick. ☹️There was a record breaking 700,000 people at Columbus Pride this year and walking in the parade I could really feel the energy. I’ve nev...
Just Me
Sometimes the body dysmorphia hits hard and I have to pull back from all the things. The makeup, hair stuff, obsessing over what I eat, even fun filters I sometimes play around with on TikTok… I have to set it all aside and just look at myself without the extras. The “extras” are generally harmless and fine, as l...
Listening & Learning
I was raised in the evangelical church, specifically in a weird mix of fundamentalism and Pentecostalism. I was very intentionally kept from “the world” and only allowed to listen to and read approved media. We weren’t even allowed to watch TV except for a few shows my parents allowed, and even then only with per...
What I’m Listening To: An Audience of None
This podcast is one of my new favorites because Stephanie and Joshua and also some of my favorites! They talk about their experiences related to evangelical church world and all things Christian church music as former worship leaders. I personally resonate so much with their stories and they’re so good at making it l...
No Response
I’ve heard it said many times that no response IS a response. Right now, my lack of response is the very best way to handle people who are refusing to hear me and respect my boundaries. This problem has been popping up a lot with fellow creators on TikTok who I would consider friends on a parasocial level. I’m lear...
Towels
Growing up I had this silly life goal of always having all matching bath towels. I don’t know why, but that seemed like a key indicator of success. 😆I’ve yet to achieve all matching towel status in life, but I do have a few favorites.
Rainy Days
It’s raining where I’m at today, which is good because we really needed the rain. These are the sort of days that make me wish I could just lay around with a cup of coffee and a book instead of working.❤️❤️❤️
