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Someone May Need to Hear This

🕑 Added 2024-02-29 01:37:03 +0000 UTC

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Swoop_there

This is such good advice Alex 💛 thanks for being a legend.

Jess Thomas

Same.

R Gee

Good vibes Alex - so well said and all true.

sippy cup

tucker max ? 😂 who’s that

IGOR PODEMSKI

Hope everything goes well for you and your daughter in the future! You got this!

IGOR PODEMSKI

Thank you Alex. I truly needed this video. Been kinda struggling with a lot of shit lately, and your words mean SOOO much to me. I'm gonna try to not think about all the shit i've been dealing with for the past few weeks and just move on, and be better. Thank you soooo much once again <3

Purple Cowboy

Procrastination is my struggle. I’ve got ADHD and Asperger’s and despite what most people think, ADHD is not just fidgeting around and being restless. Most of the time I try to turn negative things into a positive outcome. For example ADHD. Yes it’s a huge hindrance to living a steady normal life, but instead of making excuses with ADHD, I try to find positive aspects and strengths within it which can be of benefit. (Now I have to mention that not all ADHD people are alike and people have different personalities, cultural backgrounds and social environments which they grow up. Which makes having ADHD a unique experience for each person affected.) So one of the downsides and least favorite aspects of ADHD (for me) is procrastination. Now I know a lot of people will say, “I don’t have ADHD and I fidget/am restless/procrastinate/etc. That doesn’t mean you have ADHD nor does it say you know what it’s like. You don’t. But it can (if you let it) be a guide to be able to understand someone’s perspective a little. So keeping that in mind, the problem with procrastination with ADHD is that it’s not only not getting a task done or even starting it but it’s connected to other things as well. So for me it’s being anxious, getting stressed which then leads to “ADHD paralysis” (where, at least for me, it becomes physically painful to move. This can come in a form of severe headaches, muscle aches, back pain, etc.), but the one thing that helps me is using one of the powerful good aspects of ADHD. Which (for me) are being able to concentrate on something hours on end (easily 8-10 hours even), being “hyper focused”. Which eventually makes up for the time spent procrastinating. I need to add that on top of having these “episodes” of ADHD paralysis, I also lack the understanding/perception of passing time (also very typical for ADHD people). Which means with deadlines and assignments that take more than 30min. I don’t have the same strengths in calculating how much time I will need for something or when I would need to start a task that takes longer so that I would finish it in time. So I’m trying something today to get out of the paralysis state I’m in at the moment by “tricking” myself to start tasks I should’ve started a month ago. Simply by finding something within that task that is particularly interesting or important for me and go from there. Which will then be taken over by the “hyper focus” -mode and basically give me the ability to complete the tasks and make up at least some of the time I lost. Finding something within the task that is interesting or important can be for example to really wanting outshine you previous results, or proving yourself or others that you’re able to do something despite their judgement. Even for trying to be the best at something. To finding something interesting within the task might be something that gets you started on it, and can be crucial when trying to overcome the ”paralysis” phase. If it’s an assignment in your studies, try writing down what you already know, google something new about it and then look at what else you need to know to complete the task and there is your start. This may not work for everyone, but maybe it helps someone. Pay it forward! Ps. A movie Alex definitely should see if he hasn’t already!

Ethan Desmoulin

Thank you man, I really fucking appreciate it, really 🙏 The kindness of the internet, gives me hope

Louie G.

Hang in there, Rachel! You'll get your degree, your career, and you will soon enough have the time and money to visit family and friends. In the meantime, we can laugh at Alex's antics and video reactions together. You're not alone!

Rachel Cabot

Thank you Alex.. I am chasing my dream but constantly finding myself broke, in debt, lonely and wishing that my 20s were more full of light and human interaction. Getting my degree is important but when days go by without talking to anyone or weeks go by without a hug and I cant afford to go visit my family…. This channel and your videos really help. It is so important to live in the now, let go of the past and continue being hopeful for the future. I needed this message and just a feeling of community and being a part of something today. <3

jamie jones

From Canada. Im jealous of you being outside without sleeves

April Dawn

Thank you so much ! He is 3 we are on borrowed time , its been the Love of my life. God Bless you

Jess Thomas

You’re loved, Ethan. Never forget it.

Jess Thomas

Lots of family love, April. You can make it through this. We’re here for you.

Jess Thomas

Damn it, I needed to hear this so hard today. I can’t even express how much this meant to hear.

Patrick

Dude, I love your channel. This kind of stuff is what I need to hear though. It’s easy to get caught up in the past and things that you can’t change. I just feel better when someone else whom I respect can reinforce what I already how I should be seeing things. Keep it up.

Patrick

Also sippy cup? Tucker Max? lol

Patrick

Absolutely. Just can’t give up, that’s all.

Patrick

I feel you. Been a rough one for me too. Hope things work out better for you

sippy cup

w dad 👏🏽 you got this bro ! i hope everything goes well

sippy cup

it’ll come bro trust. and don’t settle till you find the one ☝🏽 good luck and keep your head up king

Grayson

I and I'm sure many people have felt that way at some time. Just try to take things one day at a time.

Drewcliff82

Anytime brother.

Ethan Desmoulin

I decided to post a comment here hopeing some will respond and tell me something, so Thank you very much man, I needed it

Kristal Botello

It kind of feels like this year is out to get me, to be honest.

April Dawn

I'm struggling daily, finances, job, my grandson is terminal . New highs and lows . Thank you for reminding me in all this I am just human. Life is beautiful for every moment , I have been humbled to my knees since 2020. Thank you for your words. I found you last month and you have made me laugh, fall in love with some old content again. Thank you friend ! You are a warrior too ❤️

Drewcliff82

Hope everyone is well. I'm doing a little better this month. I think that's all one can hope for.

Drewcliff82

Don't be afraid to get help before things get out of hand. I've managed to not drink since December 15th. It really helps and after a few weeks you really start to see things more clearly.

Mad Lad Wizard

I actually needed this … I have been so lonely recently… I’m 27 and have been trying to find a person to start a family with since 22 years old … 5 years of being disappointed and alone is hard especially with everyone in my life getting engaged and married. I just want a wholesome relationship with a loving woman who I can love and who loves me for me. It just seems like I’ll never find love

The Truth

Man, I'm sorry if my comment was dim yall. I love this channel just like yall. This is a really gooch slapping awesome type of fam love. One love yall, and I cant wait to talk to all of you again.

Justin Daniels

You’re a hero in my book. Your videos with the added humor helped me get through the darkest days.

Grayson

Thank you so much for those kind words Alex. These are great videos and you are definitely an inspiration.

TJ Lake

Love the vibe you have, keep up the positivity!

Grayson

It's on Twitch; Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

Culper (Lukas)

Yep, don’t dwell on your mistakes. What matters is what you do next.

Ethan Desmoulin

Been struggling with Alcohol recently, just trying to cope with life and all, what hurts me the most is the way my brothers look at me now, differently, makes me sadder and makes me drink more