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GoFundMe for Aunt and Uncle's Final Expenses
🕑 Added 2025-09-12 23:35:55 +0000 UTCUPDATE: Link didn't work the first time. It does now!
Sometimes, things get worse before they get better.
A few years ago, we moved to New Mexico to care for my Aunt and Uncle, whom we have been living with as an informal caretaker. During our aunt and uncle's decline, and after their deaths, we were going through one of the hardest portions of our life. Childhood trauma that had been repressed started coming to the surface along with many personalities we created to survive that trauma.
We are a functional whole now, but at the time we were suffering from PTSD, flashbacks, and very dark thoughts. There were days where, in between stints of taking care of our aunt and uncle, we collapsed on our bed and bawled. Then there were the days after they died where we were flashing back to their final moments and processing them both being gone within two days of each other.
We made it through all of it and are more mentally healthy than ever. Yes, we're still grieving, but it's no longer as sharp and awful. Though now, things outside our mental state are not especially great.
There's no easy way to say this. My aunt and uncle were avoidant about getting their final affairs in order. In the long run, we will be okay, but in the shorter term things are rough.
They had no money set aside for: the funeral home, a memorial service, lawyer and court fees, all the little things that have to be done when someone dies that make an overwhelming list that we're still working through.
On top of that, the will leaves the property to another part of the family, so we also risk losing our housing. The individuals that inherited the property have mentioned selling it several times even though they've promised not to. We're getting mixed messages and there's a possibility we'll have moving expenses on top of everything else.
To not go into debt and to avoid adding even more complexity to an already overwhelming situation, we need help.
Please give what you can. The more support we get, the more security we will have against the uncertainty we're facing. If we can pay outstanding bills and make it through the next two months, we will be in a much better position and shouldn't need further help. We've been under immense stress for a long time and it would be nice to finally get a break. If you can't give anything, please share this around.
Link to our GoFundMe
Comments
Zmeydros
Thank you so much! <3
Zmeydros
Oh! Well, we have help figuring stuff out and people have given a fair amount. We're thinking things will be alright by sometime in October, hopefully.
MitchellTF
Damn. Ironically I help people with final expenses.
Vanrixie
I gave a bit, good luck!
