[#20] Uncensored - This is why we broke up.
🕑 Added 2023-05-03 00:15:17 +0000 UTCIn this episode, QT & Maya talk about everything from cohosting a Bug Gala Charity Event to crazy past relationships.
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Jacob Distelzweig
The "no one cares about Ohio" and the related "they(Ohioans) know nobody cares" so true, and so comical
Alex Blythe
To the fan on Reddit asking about a drunk episode. Ep 20 QT and Maya start the episode drunk and QT finishes a whole bottle - titled “why we broke up” it’s a fun time
Emma
Not crazy at all. That dude did not deserve your trust
Emily
You told me to tell you about my problem, so I have one. I was dating my now ex, and we had been together for maybe like 3 months at this point. I was young and naive, and he was my first serious relationship. I thought we had a good trust thing going, to the point where he would let me play games on his phone. you know, trusting shit. Until one day he got a snap on his phone from a silly username, and I told him "hey so-and-so sent you a text, do you want me to reply?" And for the first time ever he ran over and snatched the phone out of my hands and acted sooooo shady. Red flags going off in my head, MANY red flags. So I did the logical thing... I took his phone and investigated when he was busy playing LoL. The username was his ex girlfriend. I only know this because he asked her if she would ever get back together with him in those texts... while he was dating me. And they had met up at cute parks and shit together several times while he was with me. ANYWAYS that's not even the main thing... one of the other people he was texting was his ex fuck buddy. And they talked about shit like using sex toys and stuff and opinions on it... and I thought that already was kinda crossing the line, but even more so because they were romantically involved before. SO, I confront him, he apologizes. I tell him I would prefer him to not hang out with his ex fuck buddy anymore. He agrees. Couple weeks later, I see her still inviting him out, he is still meeting with her. He changes his gym to her gym... I tell him this is not okay. He gets mad at me and tells me I can't tell him who he can and cannot hang out with. I tell him it's either me or her. He chooses me. A month later, I pick him up from the emergency room from a minor scare. He gets a phone call from her begging him to hang out. He looks at me shifty eyed wondering if I can hear her (i can hear her) and he kinda angrily said "I'm with MY GIRLFRIEND right now" and she freaks out and starts apologizing and promptly hangs up... so I now find out he's still seeing her. Am I crazy for being super suspicious about these two?!?! Anyways, they stopped hanging out eventualyly. I foolishly dated him for 4 more years. We broke up, yay! The end!
Pingu
Hearing about the pbj picnic story, is so funny aften watching Ludwig make Slime a tuna sandwich on the newest yard patreon episode
Benite Rutaganira
I'm not usually a jealous partner, but the WORST is when you ask about it and they lie. Oooh that gets me heated
BLG_Worlds_2023
I know it's a little late to respond, but knowing how weird and drama farm-y the internet is, it may be better to advertise the auction part of the Gala as auctioning dates instead of auctioning the people themselves. Love the podcast. Thanks for the great content.
Baco
here is some quick tea bc why not. I had a partner that we would do some spicy stuff together. And we had the habit of me going down on her, but she had a lot of issues with UTIs and Vaginosis. we usually would stop doing stuff or do specific stuff to not make things worse for her and so I don't get mouth vaginosis (its a thing). but one time we didn't see each other for a while and we got right to business and after she arrived we talked for a bit and she said "did I taste different?" I was like "no? why?" her response.... "oh I think I have vaginosis because I have had bad discharge and smelled weird." Now I luckily did not get mouth vaginosis but man I was fucked up mentally for like a week!
Brody Wollard
I'm from Ohio, it should all be cattle tbh
BoatWasTaken
Pogala
Jordan
Both of you are hilarious
Simon Hanson
The look of complete disappointment on Maya's face, when QT said she couldn't do the bug presentation, hurt my soul.
EverquestJunky
If you are in an argument with a partner, need space and they refuse to let you leave, it is 100% okay to call the police.
Meliza A.
LOL. I love you guys. Absolutely same, I def need more girl friends
kay
Qt and Maya every episode asking if they've talked too much on a podcast 😂
Arrowni
QT's ex boyfriend story hits close home with how pent up ressentment and trying to make your partner happy are things that get so damn hard over the years. Walking away after you swallowed your trauma hurts silly
Zabi
lit really neither of u are crazy
ClimateKy
ECO Gala is such a sick idea! Two of my favorite things, environmental science and twitch. Thanks for using your platform to bring not just money, but likely just as important, education to normies! You both are the best fr
Sib
QT in all Love, you need to stop worrying about talking to much, we are here to listen to you both, and we enjoy when either of you talks however much <3
Magpye
I thought of a cool Tarantula dress idea and drew it up if y’all wanna see. It’s on Reddit and twitter
Ayoub LWR
QT i have an idea. butterfly dress made out of the same type of butterfly behind u in the podcast + a purse\clutch in the shape of a wine bottle fully stoned. just saying.
em
i love how normal you two are /g
Carmel
It could be Peepo’s Gala for the Amazon because frog
em
i hope you have george dream and/or mr beast's crew there (: i feel like they'd really pull huge auction retention!!
Courtney Vos
alright Maya. Make me like wasps cause there’s one in my porch and I want him OUT
SK J
Someone should make a compilation of every time Maya has to respond to people hating on bugs :') <3 invertibrates take up 94 % of animal species... <3
AJ
crazy or not - two thumbs up from me
MrWorldExtraWide
QT did kiss Mia Malkova, so that's gonna have a big impact
cierra
oh my god NO? way?
bakedLaska
Every time Maya asks if something is bad or if she's crazy it's always a legit crime like sexual battery or false imprisonment. It's so common for women to feel like they're crazy when they're not :(
Devin Thaduud
QT: Stall for me Maya Maya: -goes into the Nerve Center script without skipping a beat- Shoutout to the Barbara fans. Should definitely get to see Barb on the main stage. Give us two presentations or the streets will be slightly unhappy.
Leah
Love the crazy or not! i can relate so much to that feeling! i feel like if you guys ever lack any content you should take stories from patreon😂
seashell
i dont think you're crazy on the first one, boundaries are super important and it sounds like he was disrespecting your autonomy. unless someones under arrest or about to drive drunk, nobody should ever be prevented from leaving anywhere. the food thing is a bit more questionable for sure
Chloie
When I was 20 my grandpa that was my father figure died and none of my friends knew how to handle it so they said I was too depressing to be around. I've heard this same thing happen to so many people too because everybody just likes you're fine after a couple months. Boyfriend wasn't justified. Just an asshole
Mark Repka
Best intro 😂
Cuzzi Chavez
Call it the KEK Gala
James
I definitely don’t think you should undersell what’s been working for Alveus as a method of conversation that reliably converts connections with ambassadors into awareness and dollars! The only thing more endearing to the cause than My Streamer™ falling in love with an ambassador is a streamer being scared of an animal! It would be a shame to miss out of that element of it all at the gala. Could there be a section of the red carpet with the opportunity to meet ambassadors that could be edited into a montage ready for the main event?
stephanie
its not a traditional wine but my favorite wine is called Beatbox, yall should try it.
Annie Lynn
that butterfly dress is crazy my jaw dropped
Drew
As for the treats discussion. The lack of bowls is damning. If you're being thoughtful enough to get a treat, you would definitely think to bring two spoons and two bowls.
Jose Marin
Great episode! story one-Maya was 100% justified, dude was being creepy and should've just left. Maya's story 2- I am assuming the guy went away to college so it was a LDR? especially at that age i think things can be hard and insecurities can happen. That said, Maya mentioned she told him he wasn't comfortable with these actions and he kept doing them so he's in the wrong. I do agree with QT in that it depends on the person and situation, in regards to bringing treats or something. I've done things for female friends like grabbing them a treat they like or something, without ulterior motives. Now, what he was doing sounds like going out on dates or setting up dates. Women's intuition-I think we all have that gut feeling when things aren't right. Always trust it because it's usually right. A couple different Ex's I had a bad feeling, once i was being cheated on and another my GF didn't realize the guys were trying to get with her? anyways, trust your gut. QT's abuse boyfriend- 100% it was a toxic relationship. Clearly he knew how to manipulate you. That said, it is partially true that some people just do not have the capacity to deal with heavy things. Even if you've dated years, seeing someone through severe grief and/or depression is hard. Obviously if they're important to you and you love them then you'll do what you can to be there for them but I think it just showed he didn't truly love QT because you don't just take people at their best, you also help them at their worst. At some point though, people can be tired of trying to help when the person can't or won't help themselves. I definitely don't think this is the case and he was just an asshole. I would hope QT has grown so much that she would never stay with anyone that she had to put up a fake persona for 24/7 to please them. Lastly Maya's Caleb?(spelling) story- I think that snapchat was just a sign that you clearly wanted to be exclusive and this started the conversation. I think assuming things is one of the biggest issues in relationships, never hurts to clarify. sorry for the long post, IDK why i love drama or giving advice
Kyle Howington
Hey, From Ohio. We agree with QT, Ohio is shit.
Alondra Alanis
If you ever need a fake story to lie about, I am happy to provide you my story of my very first tinder date who casually confessed he drove his last two exes to su***de in a game of two truths one lie
ByTheLamplight
Love how QT chose the grossiest wine they've had to finish a bottle 🤣
Tarantulala gala, sponsored by Wine About It™, Also rude making Maya give up on her bug gala dream, she held off starting drama but u can see she wants it
Devontae78
The sanctuala
Nihaal Shah
really looking forward to the gala, auctioning off collab streams for charity is a sick idea
Lmao that exbf comment on the midrif photo was full man brain. He looked at that and was like she looks good, but honesty is good too. U ask that guy if that dress makes butt look big, he go "ummmmmmm?? 🤔🤔 " And weighs out an honest response tryna be helpful. I know it was unprompted, u never asked about the photo, but him and his three braincells was probably thinking he was being super helpful.
Ash
btw not judging but I hope the friend at the end that is against abortion is a mormon friend :(
Chelsea Mandziuk
Please hypnotize Will neff
Fredrika
Having this on while packing for my trip
Seth Hastings
@40:00 we love empathy here
Seth Hastings
Yo! Remember when I talked about the new IRL backpacks? I've got a business partner for them in Austin now, so we should be launching within a month! Part of what the business will provide is IRL backpack rentals (data included) So maybe we can help you out with production
Klav
forsen
SetRange
Change it back to the bug gala please! That sounds so amazing and unique
udara cs
this episode is also great! but we want tiktok time :/
Julian Schäfer
wait didnt qt kiss mia at shitcamp?
Akumu2100
That midsection comment was messed up.
Erin
so excited to see yall hosting together again for the bug gala
GOGOG
Bailey planting the seeds of doubt before swooping in with that sustainable butterfly-themed dress.
Nogator
let maya bring bugs! 😡
Melodyingg
A partner pulling the kind of shit that he did to QT is definitely because of built up resentment. I had a relationship just recently end basically for the exact same reason and it taught me that regular check ins about how you feel about your partner and about the relationship are very important. Also making sure both of you are being 100% honest with your communication. Just my little note to anyone in the comments 😅
Anabyee
The midsection comment was definitely a backhand and that guy needs help lol
TenaciousDealer
The only thing crazy is that you've been through so many wild experiences in your relationships. It's insane the lengths QT went to make that bf feel comfortable when it really should have been the other way around considering her mother's passing. It's also crazy to hear that someone thinks 3 months enough time to greave for a mother. My mum lost her mother (my grandma) at 72 from Cancer around 15 years ago and she still has plenty of moments where she'll need support because my sister or I might reach milestones that she knows her mother would have given anything to celebrate with us. Another fantastic episode and looking forward to even more events this year! Bring on Master Baker and the Bug Gala.
Murkus
QT's story about that guy trying to break up with her is so crazy. Like the fact that they were dating for 2 to 3 years makes me feel like he should've put up with it... but like she said some people just have emotional limits... but it's not QT's fault at all for being depressed after her own mother died. It just makes me so sad that you had to be a fake person for so long after that to protect his feelings when he should've been supporting you. It's all so complicated and unfair. Silver lining is that it just makes me more happy to hear you have a healthy relationship now.
LovedFox
Hearing that ex tell qt she needs to get over the death of her mom and the subsequent trauma that resulted from all that was actually heartbreaking. It was a hard decision, but im gonna have to label that one as it was fucked up and you’re not crazy.
Courtney Reeves
Omgggg the butterfly dress is stunning
Upsidedown
Great episode this week!
Bailey
qt your friend is the problem for being anti-abortion don't feel bad
AxialMars
wowie
Michael
The Gala seems like the perfect place for Maya to present/promote conservation!
Attabui
As an entomologist, I am sooo excited for the bug gala! I know they'll probably switch gears to the Amazon cause that's probably more marketable but hopefully bugs will still be a large part of that!
LunaticLynn
the M in Maya is for being mortified at half the things QT says 😭
VancityRen
The most fucked up thing in this episode is that one guy thinking 3 months is a "long time" to mourn the loss of a parent!! THATS LITERALLY NO TIME AT ALL, wtf!! Also, very excited for bug gala!
Dakota Sanders
every story that was like am I crazy or was this fucked up? it was always fucked up. . .
Bailey
I looked up the Oscar de la Renta butterfly dress and it looks so cheap why is it $10,000
Miss Willum
let maya bring the bugs to the bug gala fr
Bailey
I'm a sustainable fashion designer and I have a butterfly-themed dress in the works what a coincidence
Eevee
Currently crushing at an airport, wine about it at the perfect time
Jacob Johns
this was awesome
Glitch
That gala sounds amazing! Can’t wait to see how it turns out with the auction site too
xoxo_gems
That butterfly dress is sick!!! Also he was clearly just jealous of your abs in that pic Maya because the “lighting & shadows” made them look great
Stephanie
I might still be a lil tipsy from today's bonus episode but hell yeah let's go!
Tfries_
qt is just so effortlessly hilarious. you guys don't have to try hard to be funny... every episode so far has been genuinely funny and interesting.
LunaticLynn
a 2 in 1? hell yeah lets go !! 🍷
eirysse
wine about it 🎶
Samara
Hell yess there is so much traffic on the 101 rn and I already watched the patron ep today 🤙🤙🤙 Here we go again!
Zedicus
Two in one day, hell yeah
xoxo_gems
Literally just finished the last episode lol
Tyler Jones
2 for 1 let’s goooooo
Felipe Boubee
Double episode hell yeah