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Sharing me
🕑 Added 2023-03-11 03:12:00 +0000 UTCTwo photos. One with clothes one without. Same day. Same activity dancing in my apartment for me.
So many ask why we as women show our naked bodies or humans in general. Or many simply have an assumption about those that show their bodies.
When I was a child I grew up with a father that walked around naked and a mother that was shy about her body. Both however had no basis on seeing others naked. They called humans beautiful specimens when they admired a physique, usually to do with sport. My brother ended up less open about his body and I more relaxed. Same upbringing. However as we grew and experienced life our lives became very different. This changed us not wrong or right but that is why we are who we are today.
I was taught to see the body not for what we were but for what we do and use it as a tool for life. I remember as a child wearing very daggy clothes and my dad being proud of me for not caring about how I looked. I remember as a state swimmer, national waterpolo player and international runner wearing very little tight clothes and never getting any disrespect, just congrats on my performance or feedback.
Sorry about any spelling or grammar issues. I need to put my glasses on. As a child I suffered dyslexia so it takes a couple goes for me to get anything with spelling mistakes or grammar issues. My friend use to say it would not be a card from you without you making a mistake in it lol
I remember also being one of the first female football umpires in Tasmania. We wore white uniforms at that stage. Shorts and t-shirt that would go see through in the rain. I remember the sexual comments at 14 and it was confusing for me because I did not understand why some spaces respect was held no matter if we had clothes or not.
Ive learned over time it is our upbringings, cultural, environmental teachings and wiring that makes us who we are. We can change our views if we want however it takes work. It is also important to note how people view me or you is not necessarily me or you. Just their subjective opinion.
When I was in my mid 20s I went to Austria and had a naked sauna with my friends parents, Head of Police, Town Mayor and a hunter. We chatted and laughed with broken English and German I did not understand. After the sauna we had homemade schnapps. I had 4 too many because I did not know how to say I had had enough lol. Still to this day I do not recognise the Head of Police or Town Mayor in person in clothes. Two very offical characters and lovely humans. Yet here we are meeting for the first time in a mixed naked sauna because it's normal in Europe. Not in America or Australia. Just a different experience in a different part of the world.
The human body if I am clothed or not is not sexual inheritenly or not or the person good or bad. It is just part of life and our different subjective experiences.
As you can see in my umpiring days I had more people sexualise me than in the naked experiences I shared above. I still remember guys out of the stands saying look mate she's wearing a thong! It makes me laugh now looking back how easily we can be amused as humans sexually. Erotica is adult play. It can be a simple touch a funny joke, a smile, a gaze, or more intimate. However it is the new level of kids play. It makes us feel good and come alive. Once we learn sexuality we cant unlearn it. Sexuality makes us feel good and alive just like playing as kids. That is why we when we get new partners we are on top of the world exploring discovering. Every meal, phone call, conversations is amazing and nothing has changed really except our play (discovery) with ourselves and another and also intimacy. That is also why with long term partners we may get a little dry and bored because we stop discovering, playing and having fun. Just like children with a new and old toy and also like with children they can do silly things playing... So can adults and we just need to remember to find more balance and respect with it and know everyone plays differently.
I share my human form because it is me. It was how I was born and who I am. It is an act of being human in a world of hiding human or trying to live up to the expectations of being human.
It is also being healing for me to love and accept myself after losing a kid and having a kid. After trauma from ræpe, physical and emotional äbuse.
When I started learning yoga I did it naked at home, so that my barriers of shame and words outside of me of the world and others I held true I could release. I also did it to build an understanding of this amazing body we all live in to see the muscles work and build a mind muscle connection and build a better practice.
I share sensuality in dance and movement because this makes me feel less of a robot and less dark as a human in this world that can be hard many days. To be sensual and feel myself, my mind. my body, my soul through my senses makes life more rich and less empty.
For those sharing their sexuality I commend them and think that is beautiful that they are empowered to do so. However my sexuality is reserved for me and those I share it with privately. I am here to teach and share a human clothed or not clothed and to make others know it is okay to be who they are. It is okay to be sexual but we do not need to force it on others if that is not their thing in all the spaces it is ours. We can simply appreciate our differences and find other ways to share or connect. I also want people to know sexuality is normal part of life.
For those men suffering from worry are they big enough. It is the same as women suffering are they beautiful or thin or curvy enough. In my experience those that are enough. Are enough not because they are ideal or perfect. It is because they accept themselves. They are not great lovers because they have big parts or perfect parts it is because they can be present and learn, discover, feel everything and connect to themselves and others they are with.
I hope this little writing may help someone today and I hope you all know you are awesome beyond words.
Here is my naked truth statement I wrote in my book. If you want to know more about me. Please feel free to grab my book, it is on amazon (way less grammar issues thanks to the editor lol) or ask me a question. I am happy to share and answer. I do all these free and my paid programs and online sites mostly on my own. This is why it takes time to get back to people. Ive never made a cent from my book. I only get 10% of the profit and have to buy the book to giveaway at 50% discount. Im still paying off the advance.
In my sites I share simply me and you'll see spelling mistakes and you will also see non perfect just a human doing herself. To work, to raise a family and share a lot free online content and some days it is a lot. I feel exhausted and do not know how to keep up with life. But I do it because I want to help others as we rise by lifting others. My free time and available time often get confused. I wish I had more time to thank you all for your support. Respond to you all and be all you dreamed of but I can only be me and for me. I am learning that is okay to unapologetically ourselves as long as we keep working on our true responsibility, the way in which we respond to everything.
When I wrote my book I not only shared my first naked photoshoot in it in Bali in 2018. I did my yoga teacher training in Bali in 2018 and also a photoshoot with our photographer of the course Olivia. I also shared my heart and soul in my book. It is hard sharing your life. So many people are ready to make mincemeat of you these days online.
Social Media Works...Me: I prefer Mangoes to Oranges.
Random Person: So basically what you are saying is you hate oranges? You also failed to mention pineapples, bananas, grapefruits. Education yourself. I am literally shaking.
Personally I am still healed and healing, learning and growing but I will always be human trying to love harder and be more real in a world that does not wish for that anymore or know how to be that.
Why?
I think we have gotten in this world that being imperfect, real, failure and just learning and growing are part of the process. Usually we only share our successes, beauty or pretend successes.
A big part of our stress today is not accepting failure, striving for perfection and not accepting aging. If only we could relearn and remember it’s all part of the process and it is okay to share these parts of us too. It would make being human a little less stressful and even more enjoyable. Kids often play and discover and grow because they don’t have the draw of standards they open and see they fail and say I’m not worthy. They have draws of experience and learning that align with joy. Let's try it again when they open them. Let your inner kid shine, allow space for you to learn and discover even if the world can't appreciate it you will and your life and mental health will benefit too.
My Naked Truth Statement
I’m Rhy
I’m a yoga teacher and wellbeing consultant
I taught myself pole dancing
I have experienced äbuse, been räped and tried to commit süicide
I lost a kid
I have a beautiful daughter
I post regular photos and videos of myself online, with commentaries on life, love and yoga
I view my body as a gift and don’t feel that clothes should define us
My images, with or without clothes, are about art and freedom
My heart hurts from all the judgement in the world
I wish I could fix it so my daughter didn’t have to experience this hatred
It’s hard being misunderstood in my yoga and fitness
The judgement can be overwhelming but all I can do is show my journey and let others share theirs
I used to be terrified of being my true self – honest and vulnerable
But I’d rather be judged for my truth than for something “perfect” that’s not who I really am
And this is just part of my story...
Thanks for being here and reading have a wonderful weekend Rhy xo
Comments
I wish the same thank you for reading
I appreciate it more than words can say
I do agree
J0n45_D4nι3λ
I enjoy reading how you were raised and I regret so many hard situations about your body I wish we can all respect others regardless of being or not clothed
This is why I am here. To follow and support such an amazing and awesome human is an honour.
Martin Johnson
Well said! Krystal of Michele's crowd once posted that nudity is an assertion of the authentic self. I suspect you'd agree.
