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Domestic Violence (Cobras vs Pitbulls) (2016 Rerun)

🕑 Added 2025-11-27 12:00:19 +0000 UTC

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Melly

Thank you for talking about this. It‘s not easy for me to listen to but I‘m trying. However I like to add one thing I haven‘t heard so far (maybe it comes later). Those terrorists might be solving an attachment issue. But also, they are acting on a superiority and from a position of power that they are very aware of. They KNOW they can terrorize a woman because they have more power and strength. Often though they don‘t do it in public. Why? If it was only attachment issues, they would act out everywhere but they don‘t. They wait until they are at home, where no one will see them or do anything, and then they act out. That is a conscious decision I have seen in people. I also highly recommend the book „why does he do that?“ by Lundy Bancroft.

DuckHouse

Thank you for talking about how breaking the societal code of conduct can be interpersonal terrorism. I knew a person who bragged about doing exactly this. Whenever someone confronted him about his behavior, his response would be would so out of proportion to the situation that the person confronting him would immediately back off, because the interaction had suddenly and unexpectedly gone off the rails. He was fully aware of what he was doing. It was a tactic.

wacky

For the record, the relationship also started while I was 14 or 15 so I missed out on all learning in the late teen years

wacky

Why don't the laws honestly tighten around early stage abusive behaviours? Lots of that could be done and be effective I doubt educating victims will do much more than already being done you know? At least in comparison to action within the early stages of abuse. To the point of midnight moves: I've had to flee in the night before, thankfully by a much stronger and bigger family member of his. But he still showed up for weeks daily and I seriously couldn't leave the house of that family member and when that person had to leave for work, their friend and brother would come be there to make him leave. He also called his own aunt who was the home owner upwards of 50 times when he realised the next morning. Along with a few other and me. On-top of that I legitimate had to re-learn every single thing to do with being a person. From eating around people, how to have a normal routine, what his family was actually like vs what he said they were, I had to even learn how to speak to people and hold eye contact without panicking and getting upset. People that I knew already too. I had to also learn what life and stuff even was cause he gaslit and lied and created false narratives so heavily that everything was a complete lie. Even when if it was a somewhat simple escape it took intensive therapy (including an outpatient, almost inpatient, psychosis program) and learning. It was awful and I was so fearful. I still over 10 years later have a lot of issues over it all.