Reminder: We don't need to disown our sissyness in order fo..
🕑 Added 2021-12-20 08:38:50 +0000 UTC
Reminder: We don't need to disown our sissyness in order for our gayness to be "valid" / "approved' by others.
Society (un)consciously praises gay men who fit within a masculine persona, and to be masculine means always sexually hungry, always DTF. Yet expresses deep misogyny and aphoia with those who show signs of femininity and who are asexual. Many ( myself included when I was in my 20s) equates sex with happiness or wholeness, and to be non-sexual induces an inferiority complex on gay men due to toxic masculinity. Desperately hiding away my non-masculine side and my sissyness in order to for my gayness to be "valid"
We live in a hypersexualized society that's both addicted to and stressed out by sex, especially in the gay community. it forces us to be constantly be sexually aroused and sex-hungry in order for our gayness to be “valid”. Gayness almost instantly equates sex. Such normalized promiscuity among the us has become socially accepted or even admirable.
Their hypersexuality is challenged by the polar opposite of asexuality which essentially values human connection over short-lived temporial physical pleasure. hypersexualization is a form of ace erasure.All this contribute to a vicious cycles of repeated patterns and damaging behaviors. It forces anxiety, disappointment, and shame to be felt by those who lack the sexual appetite.
While we deserve to celebrate and take pride in our identities and sexual desires that have been oppressed and violated, it’s time for us to also acknowledge gayness does not equate sex and that gay sexual desire and practices isn’t one-size-fits-all.
